This subject was a rare exception a generation ago, but it's now a very common phenomenon. It is not a common occurrence. Remarried people often bring their children into the new family.

It is not uncommon - and even normal - for a family to be plagued by traps and pitfalls that can ruin the harmony that they desire for their children.

Why? Why?

This means that the new family must be its own entity and not simply a re-creation of the former or old family.

40% of the first marriages end with divorce, and 60% of second marriages end in divorce.

Why are there so many second marriages? There is a precedent for divorce and children from the previous marriages of either spouse are two key factors Indian matrimony.

Parents who remarry ......... often choose to give "Individual Fulfillment" priority over "Family/Marriage Fulfillment".

They make it an either/or choice ......, rather than a both/and choice.

n.b. This is a human tendency. It does not necessarily mean that parents are not concerned about their children, or that they are selfish.

However, it is possible to meet your own personal needs without sacrificing the needs of your children.

It must be recognized that this new family ....... is not an imitation or rehash of the old, no matter how great it was or appeared to be.

You have to work hard for it.

Remarried couples who have children from their previous marriage should consider the lessons learned before prioritizing their own needs.

If not addressed properly, issues such as deep feelings of loss (grieving for their family), loyalty issues, and a feeling of lack of control can all be fatal to a family's chances of starting a family.

Re-married parents should learn techniques for adaptation to their new relationships and families. These include sibling conflict, discipline, financial concerns, and other issues.